Life Lessons: Reflections on My 30s and Embracing the Journey
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Chapter 1: Embracing Change
As my 32nd birthday approaches, I find myself reflecting on the insights I've gained during my thirties. One significant realization is the desire to become a parent someday. However, I've wrestled with anxiety and depression regarding this future goal, particularly the fear that my children might inherit my mental health challenges. This uncertainty led me to several conclusions.
Firstly, I discovered that many others share similar worries yet still become amazing parents. Additionally, I've learned that people are choosing to start families later in life, which gives me hope that I can too. Importantly, I identified three priorities for myself: enhancing my mental health, securing a stable career, and marrying a compatible partner.
Section 1.1: Trusting a Higher Plan
Despite my ongoing struggles with anxiety, I've found solace in the belief that God has a plan for me that surpasses my own aspirations. Many times, I felt as if the world was collapsing when things didn't go as I envisioned. I often found myself in jobs that were detrimental to my well-being, convinced that I would never find fulfilling work or the right partner.
However, through prayer and a shift in perspective, I’ve come to recognize that God has already been guiding me. He has provided me with a respectful job, introduced me to new friends who emerged from my struggles, and granted me the bravery to share my stories with a wider audience. I trust that He will continue to reveal His plans, which I may not fully understand at the moment.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Importance of Patience
In November 2021, I embarked on a quest to locate my biological family. This journey took months, but I eventually connected with several relatives and even met my biological uncle face-to-face. It was a profoundly positive experience. Although I'm still awaiting responses from other relatives, including my biological parents, I understand that patience is essential. As I mentioned earlier, if meeting my biological family is part of God’s plan, it will unfold in His timing.
Section 1.2: The Journey is Unique
Life is not a competition. Comparing my achievements to those of my friends often left me feeling inadequate. Many of my peers are married, have children, own beautiful homes, and enjoy lucrative careers, which made me question my own path. The reality is that life unfolds differently for each of us, and that’s perfectly acceptable. Embracing who I am and living in the moment is crucial as I acknowledge that my journey is distinct. In the broader scope of life, I’m still relatively young, and there's no need to rush toward my aspirations.
Chapter 2: Lessons from the Journey
In the video "10 LIFE LESSONS I'VE LEARNED IN MY 30's SO FAR," viewers can explore practical insights and reflections that resonate with my experiences.
Another insightful video, "30 Life Lessons I've Learned in 30 Years," shares valuable lessons that align with the themes discussed here.
Thank you for taking the time to read my reflections on this transformative decade. If you found this piece meaningful, I invite you to explore some of my other writings below.
- My Current Insights on Difficult Journeys
- Take Comfort in God’s Plans
- Five Lessons I Learned as a Mental Health Blogger
- Six Affirmations for Hope
- Finding My Biological Family Is Helping My Emotional Health
- Meeting My Biological Relative Improved My Mental Health