Chapter 1: The Many Faces of "Me"

Before we act, there exists a fleeting moment where time seems to stretch, allowing us to reflect on who we aspire to be.

"There's more than just the version of me aiming to shed 10 pounds."

This perspective is echoed by Sam Harris, who uses dieting as a metaphor for moral choices.

We all have various sides: the one that craves Doritos nightly, the one that dreams of pancakes and donuts each morning, and the one that contemplates stopping for burgers whenever hunger strikes.

But it doesn't stop there. There’s also the side of me that wishes to tune out dissent, the one that reacts defensively to criticism, and the self-centered version that is solely focused on personal desires.

Navigating these conflicting aspects of my identity can be quite challenging, as they coexist within the same self I identify with.

This internal struggle resonates with what Paul expresses in Romans 7:

"I do not comprehend my actions. For what I wish to do, I fail to do, but what I detest is what I end up doing."

Later, he adds, "If I engage in actions I don’t wish to partake in, it’s no longer I who am responsible, but rather the sin residing within me."

This observation touches on the concept of free will, yet it only scratches the surface.

Choosing the instinctual path is far too simple—retaliating when wronged, striking back when struck, reacting to provocation.

This straightforward route is driven by emotion and justifications, creating space for the less desirable version of me to take charge.

This is where the notion of mindfulness becomes crucial, and it's why Buddhist teachings constantly emphasize its significance.

In moments of mindfulness, there’s a slim possibility that the better version of me can steer the course—rather than the overly emotional, snack-craving, self-indulgent side—but rather the version that enjoys broccoli, remains resilient, and is eager to learn.

The key lies in creating that space. In those precious moments before action, we can choose our desired self.

Which version will you embody? The one aiming to lose ten pounds, or another?